Coercive control is about the exercise of power and the need to control another person and their life. Coercive control is continuous and difficult to predict. Technology often plays a major role in the control.
In coercive control, the perpetrator strives to control the victim’s life, thinking and everyday life, such as the way they spend their time, their sleeping, physical activity, eating, housing, dressing, household chores, money, use of medication, topics related to pets, social relationships, practice of religion and raising children.
Acts of coercive control may consist of numerous forms of control, such as physical violence, economic violence, sexual violence and the threat of violence. The threats can be either direct or so subtle that only the target understands what they mean.
By imposing punishments and restricting the rights of the victim, the perpetrator forces the victim to obey them. The victim follows the varying rules set by the perpetrator because they fear the consequences of breaking the rules. This cycle can normalise violence and control for the victim.
As a result of coercive control, the victim is repressed in a subordinate position. The victim often changes their behaviour to minimise the control and the resulting suffering.
Methods of coercive control are usually carefully planned and deliberate, but difficult to anticipate
The perpetrator considers their actions justified and strives to gain personal benefit. Using varying methods, the perpetrator aims to isolate the victim, limit their agency and social circles and prevent them for accessing help.
Individual acts of control are often related to a broader situation. They may appear ordinary and insignificant to outsiders, even though they may be frightening and deeply hurtful for the victim.
Contact Nollalinja for help with experiences and threats of coercive control.
Gaslighting
The term ‘gaslighting’ refers to deliberate deception and manipulation, especially in a close relationship, which make the target start doubting the truthfulness of their personal experiences, memories and thoughts. Typically, the victim also starts questioning their own mental health.